pie for breakfast
we're not trying to recruit, but maybe we should be|
|Date:||April 15th, 2014 03:59 pm (UTC)|| |
That's more or less the experience I had learning about queerness, growing up in LA (and being... I think 5 grades younger than you? which is enough to make for a big cultural difference itself on this topic), except that by the time I graduated high school I definitely knew what bi meant, because my senior year a friend mentioned to me that she had a cousin who was bi, and I didn't have to ask what that meant, so obviously I had already run across the concept somewhere. There was definitely a tension between the "one-drop theory" and the concept of bi-ness, though, and I wasn't really sure how to reconcile those. Right after graduation, a classmate was outed as "gay" by some bullies, and (since I was one of the rare kids openly advocating for gay rights and therefore safe) he confided to me he was really bi with a preference for boys, and actually explained to me what that meant, so arriving at college I did already have a reasonably consistent set of definitions of terms.
Oh, and also,whether it was rare or not, received wisdom was that it was something we had to worry about. Discussion of gay rights in social science class (which happened a lot because there was an anti gay marriage law on the ballot that year) usually devolved into an argument between the Christians who felt that if you met a gay person you should show them Christian kindness by non-violently shunning them, and the bigots who felt that if you met a gay person it was only natural to want to beat them up and no one should be blamed for giving in to that impulse.
I don't remember whether or not I'd ever heard the word "trans" before college, but it was basically a new concept to me in college.